Hello Hello! I just got home from school. School was ok. So, I take a shuttle from the parking lot to the main campus at school. Everyday that I get on the shuttle I see this couple. The guy (who's pretty darn good looking) and his girl are always on the shuttle. I swear on anything, his girlfriend wears the SAME shirt every time I see her. Its a black Nirvana shirt with the yellow letters and the smiley face. I mean, damn! You have a man, you should try to look cute and fresh for him! She seriously wears that shirt every day that I see her. The boyfriend wears different clothes all the time! He looks clean and fresh. But his girl needs a wardrobe change ASAP. I wonder what his friends would say? "Dude! Your girlfriend is wearing that shirt AGAIN?!" Anyway . . . Just saying.
So last night I got a very random-out-of-nowhere text from an old friend from high school. I haven't seen him in years. I mean, YEARS. Haven't talked to him, NOTHING. So, when he text me I didn't know who it was. Then he told me it was him and we talked for a bit. He said that he's working as a teachers assistant at an elementary school. Then he asked where I was working. I swear, I hate that question. I'm not proud of working at El Cap. Its a MOVIE THEATER. My other friends have good jobs that pay MORE than minimum wage. One works at Bank of America. She's a senior teller. The other one works at a school. Her sister works at a Vet's clinic! The others work at an Optometrist office! And now HIM, he works at an elementary school. I feel like a loser working at a minimum wage job =( I know its a job and all, but still. Anyway. I told him where I worked. It turns out we go to the same school too. He takes night classes though, cause he works in the mrngs with the kids. We're going to hang out soon, so we'll see how that goes.
While I was driving back home, I got a text from an acquaintance. He told me that him and his co-workers read my blog. They read my last blog about dating. (Hello new person reading my blog! Thanks for reading! haha) This is what he had to say:
"I think dating is like going to an INTERVIEW looking for a life time CONTRACT with someone (looking for 'the one'). I hate this concept but its true . . . . So guys do go through this too. But we tend to hide in order to gain control."
I replied saying "I fucking hate interviews!'' I kind of agree with the first part of his text. Dates ARE like interviews. Some people go on dates though, to have have fun and just mess around for a bit. Others DO go on dates to find their "soul mate." Soul mate sounds so cheesy. SOUL+MATE = Cheeeeeeeesy! Whats a non cheesy word for soul mate? Anyone?
What about if your "soul mate" lives outside the country?! How the fuck is that going to work?! Are we only limited to find our "soul mate" here in the California area? Someone explain this to me. Single Californian girls, are we limited to JUST Cali boys? Hmm . . . Maybe that's why the divorce rate is SO high because people just SETTLE with whoever they find first. My friend was dating this girl for almost 6 years and BOOM they broke up. SIX years! Not months, not weeks, but YEARS! That's 6 years down the fucking toilet! Waste of time, waste of money, waste of everything. Of course at that time, you thought "Oh, this is the best girlfriend in the world. She makes me SO happy blah blah blah" Really?! THEN a girl that I work with was with her boyfriend for FIVE years, and THEY broke up! Another girl was with her high school sweetheart for 4 years and THEY broke up!
Are we supposed to learn a lesson from all of these relationships that have gone sour? Is mother nature trying to tell us something THROUGH them? Are these situations supposed to be "Eye Openers" for us? Who knows. I'm pretty scared to be in a relationship. At first when you start dating, you're both happy and everything is gravy. After a couple months/years, are you both STILL happy like when you first started dating? Are you excited to see each other on date nights? Or has everything turned into a routine? I'm scared of my future relationships. I do NOT want them to feel like a routine. Especially ME, I get bored easily. I need excitement, spunk, surprises, SOMETHING. When I was taking a marriage counseling (Psychology) class our professor said that one way to help a marriage last longer is to step outside the box and stay away from ROUTINES! I agree 100%! Let me give you a scenario:
You wake up in the morning, you say your good mornings and praises to each other. Then you go about with your day, while you check in with your mate here and there throughout the day. Then at night you say your goodnights and give each other praises again. Then the next day you know you're going to go meet with your mate. You guys meet and blah blah blah say your praises and kiss here and there and go out for a bit. Then you say your goodbyes and that's it. Next day you do it all over again. THAT'S BORING!! That's a routine. When you know what to expect when your with your mate, I think that's when the relationship starts to get boring.
(I went to go make pancakes. Now, I lost my train of thought. So, this blog is going to end NOW. And plus Oprah is about to go on in 30 minutes. She's going back to the 60's today! I really wish I could turn back time. Oh well)
Enjoy the rest of your daaaaaaay!
PS. People who read my blogs can leave ANONYMOUS comments on here too if you want. Maybe you read something that didn't really make sense. Or maybe you read something that made you angry. Who knows. The point is, you can leave a comment anonymously. I wont know who left it. Just click on the anonymous button. I'll make this blog a little more interesting. Maybe lol
So last night I got a very random-out-of-nowhere text from an old friend from high school. I haven't seen him in years. I mean, YEARS. Haven't talked to him, NOTHING. So, when he text me I didn't know who it was. Then he told me it was him and we talked for a bit. He said that he's working as a teachers assistant at an elementary school. Then he asked where I was working. I swear, I hate that question. I'm not proud of working at El Cap. Its a MOVIE THEATER. My other friends have good jobs that pay MORE than minimum wage. One works at Bank of America. She's a senior teller. The other one works at a school. Her sister works at a Vet's clinic! The others work at an Optometrist office! And now HIM, he works at an elementary school. I feel like a loser working at a minimum wage job =( I know its a job and all, but still. Anyway. I told him where I worked. It turns out we go to the same school too. He takes night classes though, cause he works in the mrngs with the kids. We're going to hang out soon, so we'll see how that goes.
While I was driving back home, I got a text from an acquaintance. He told me that him and his co-workers read my blog. They read my last blog about dating. (Hello new person reading my blog! Thanks for reading! haha) This is what he had to say:
"I think dating is like going to an INTERVIEW looking for a life time CONTRACT with someone (looking for 'the one'). I hate this concept but its true . . . . So guys do go through this too. But we tend to hide in order to gain control."
I replied saying "I fucking hate interviews!'' I kind of agree with the first part of his text. Dates ARE like interviews. Some people go on dates though, to have have fun and just mess around for a bit. Others DO go on dates to find their "soul mate." Soul mate sounds so cheesy. SOUL+MATE = Cheeeeeeeesy! Whats a non cheesy word for soul mate? Anyone?
What about if your "soul mate" lives outside the country?! How the fuck is that going to work?! Are we only limited to find our "soul mate" here in the California area? Someone explain this to me. Single Californian girls, are we limited to JUST Cali boys? Hmm . . . Maybe that's why the divorce rate is SO high because people just SETTLE with whoever they find first. My friend was dating this girl for almost 6 years and BOOM they broke up. SIX years! Not months, not weeks, but YEARS! That's 6 years down the fucking toilet! Waste of time, waste of money, waste of everything. Of course at that time, you thought "Oh, this is the best girlfriend in the world. She makes me SO happy blah blah blah" Really?! THEN a girl that I work with was with her boyfriend for FIVE years, and THEY broke up! Another girl was with her high school sweetheart for 4 years and THEY broke up!
Are we supposed to learn a lesson from all of these relationships that have gone sour? Is mother nature trying to tell us something THROUGH them? Are these situations supposed to be "Eye Openers" for us? Who knows. I'm pretty scared to be in a relationship. At first when you start dating, you're both happy and everything is gravy. After a couple months/years, are you both STILL happy like when you first started dating? Are you excited to see each other on date nights? Or has everything turned into a routine? I'm scared of my future relationships. I do NOT want them to feel like a routine. Especially ME, I get bored easily. I need excitement, spunk, surprises, SOMETHING. When I was taking a marriage counseling (Psychology) class our professor said that one way to help a marriage last longer is to step outside the box and stay away from ROUTINES! I agree 100%! Let me give you a scenario:
You wake up in the morning, you say your good mornings and praises to each other. Then you go about with your day, while you check in with your mate here and there throughout the day. Then at night you say your goodnights and give each other praises again. Then the next day you know you're going to go meet with your mate. You guys meet and blah blah blah say your praises and kiss here and there and go out for a bit. Then you say your goodbyes and that's it. Next day you do it all over again. THAT'S BORING!! That's a routine. When you know what to expect when your with your mate, I think that's when the relationship starts to get boring.
(I went to go make pancakes. Now, I lost my train of thought. So, this blog is going to end NOW. And plus Oprah is about to go on in 30 minutes. She's going back to the 60's today! I really wish I could turn back time. Oh well)
Enjoy the rest of your daaaaaaay!
PS. People who read my blogs can leave ANONYMOUS comments on here too if you want. Maybe you read something that didn't really make sense. Or maybe you read something that made you angry. Who knows. The point is, you can leave a comment anonymously. I wont know who left it. Just click on the anonymous button. I'll make this blog a little more interesting. Maybe lol
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