"Fling 'Till You Fall In Love" Pt. 2

Hello Hello! I just got home from school. School was ok. So, I take a shuttle from the parking lot to the main campus at school. Everyday that I get on the shuttle I see this couple. The guy (who's pretty darn good looking) and his girl are always on the shuttle. I swear on anything, his girlfriend wears the SAME shirt every time I see her. Its a black Nirvana shirt with the yellow letters and the smiley face. I mean, damn! You have a man, you should try to look cute and fresh for him! She seriously wears that shirt every day that I see her. The boyfriend wears different clothes all the time! He looks clean and fresh. But his girl needs a wardrobe change ASAP. I wonder what his friends would say? "Dude! Your girlfriend is wearing that shirt AGAIN?!" Anyway . . . Just saying.

So last night I got a very random-out-of-nowhere text from an old friend from high school. I haven't seen him in years. I mean, YEARS. Haven't talked to him, NOTHING. So, when he text me I didn't know who it was. Then he told me it was him and we talked for a bit. He said that he's working as a teachers assistant at an elementary school. Then he asked where I was working. I swear, I hate that question. I'm not proud of working at El Cap. Its a MOVIE THEATER. My other friends have good jobs that pay MORE than minimum wage. One works at Bank of America. She's a senior teller. The other one works at a school. Her sister works at a Vet's clinic! The others work at an Optometrist office! And now HIM, he works at an elementary school. I feel like a loser working at a minimum wage job =( I know its a job and all, but still. Anyway. I told him where I worked. It turns out we go to the same school too. He takes night classes though, cause he works in the mrngs with the kids. We're going to hang out soon, so we'll see how that goes.

While I was driving back home, I got a text from an acquaintance. He told me that him and his co-workers read my blog. They read my last blog about dating. (Hello new person reading my blog! Thanks for reading! haha) This is what he had to say:

"I think dating is like going to an INTERVIEW looking for a life time CONTRACT with someone (looking for 'the one'). I hate this concept but its true . . . . So guys do go through this too. But we tend to hide in order to gain control."

I replied saying "I fucking hate interviews!'' I kind of agree with the first part of his text. Dates ARE like interviews. Some people go on dates though, to have have fun and just mess around for a bit. Others DO go on dates to find their "soul mate." Soul mate sounds so cheesy. SOUL+MATE = Cheeeeeeeesy! Whats a non cheesy word for soul mate? Anyone?



What about if your "soul mate" lives outside the country?! How the fuck is that going to work?! Are we only limited to find our "soul mate" here in the California area? Someone explain this to me. Single Californian girls, are we limited to JUST Cali boys? Hmm . . . Maybe that's why the divorce rate is SO high because people just SETTLE with whoever they find first. My friend was dating this girl for almost 6 years and BOOM they broke up. SIX years! Not months, not weeks, but YEARS! That's 6 years down the fucking toilet! Waste of time, waste of money, waste of everything. Of course at that time, you thought "Oh, this is the best girlfriend in the world. She makes me SO happy blah blah blah" Really?! THEN a girl that I work with was with her boyfriend for FIVE years, and THEY broke up! Another girl was with her high school sweetheart for 4 years and THEY broke up!

Are we supposed to learn a lesson from all of these relationships that have gone sour? Is mother nature trying to tell us something THROUGH them? Are these situations supposed to be "Eye Openers" for us? Who knows. I'm pretty scared to be in a relationship. At first when you start dating, you're both happy and everything is gravy. After a couple months/years, are you both STILL happy like when you first started dating? Are you excited to see each other on date nights? Or has everything turned into a routine? I'm scared of my future relationships. I do NOT want them to feel like a routine. Especially ME, I get bored easily. I need excitement, spunk, surprises, SOMETHING. When I was taking a marriage counseling (Psychology) class our professor said that one way to help a marriage last longer is to step outside the box and stay away from ROUTINES! I agree 100%! Let me give you a scenario:

You wake up in the morning, you say your good mornings and praises to each other. Then you go about with your day, while you check in with your mate here and there throughout the day. Then at night you say your goodnights and give each other praises again. Then the next day you know you're going to go meet with your mate. You guys meet and blah blah blah say your praises and kiss here and there and go out for a bit. Then you say your goodbyes and that's it. Next day you do it all over again. THAT'S BORING!! That's a routine. When you know what to expect when your with your mate, I think that's when the relationship starts to get boring.

(I went to go make pancakes. Now, I lost my train of thought. So, this blog is going to end NOW. And plus Oprah is about to go on in 30 minutes. She's going back to the 60's today! I really wish I could turn back time. Oh well)

Enjoy the rest of your daaaaaaay!

PS. People who read my blogs can leave ANONYMOUS comments on here too if you want. Maybe you read something that didn't really make sense. Or maybe you read something that made you angry. Who knows. The point is, you can leave a comment anonymously. I wont know who left it. Just click on the anonymous button. I'll make this blog a little more interesting. Maybe lol

"Fling 'Till You Fall In Love"

[CAUTION: Men/Guys/ Males you might want to skip this blog entry cause I'm going to talk about periods, blood, cramps, boys, sex, you know . . . things that "Gross" you guys out (except the sex part). If you decided to continue to read this lovely blog entry. Don't fucking judge me and say "Eww, did you read what Karla wrote on her blog! Can you believe she said that?!" I've said it before, it's my blog and I can write whatever I want. Nobody is forcing you to read this =) ENJOY!]
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I don't know where to begin . . . . Or HOW to begin.

When I went to work today, I swear I thought I was going to have the worst day ever because I was working with Sindy. It turned out to be great. We talked like nothing ever happened (Nothing happened between us, but it somehow turned to be very awkward when we saw each other all of a sudden). Then, later on Ana started her shift. I didn't know she was going to work. When she got to the floor WE started talking like we were bff's gossiping about boys and the psycho girl. I swear, girls are weird (including myself). She started gushing about this boy she likes then I started venting (not gushing) about boys. Well, a little gushing but mostly venting. I'm pretty sure we were just getting a long because we're both on the period, and all the estrogen floating around just made it happen.

Speaking of bloody periods. I went to go visit my pregnant friend at her job today. I bought her unborn baby the cutest high top converse ever. I walked inside her job and she was GLOWING. Awww, it filled my little greasy heart with JOY. She is showing now =) and she made me touch her belly. Her boobs are enormous! I told her "Geez! You're boobs are HUGE!" Then she said "Really? I thought they were shrinking (sarcasm) Do you want to touch them? (sarcasm again)" hahaha Awww, she looks so cute and puffy =) Tmrw is her birthday, Im taking her and her fetus to a restaurant! Yaaaaaay!

Now, for the serious stuff (ha!) . . .

DATING:
I went on my first real date ever in 2005. High school doesnt count. That shit is just . . . . NO. Does NOT count. Anyway. It was my first semester at SMC, I met this guy in my English class. His name was Mike . . . something. I forgot his last name. He asked if I wanted to go out on a date with him I said "sure" Eversince then, I've been on a couple dates here and there (not with the same guy from my English class). I swear I hate that feeling RIGHT before you're going to meet up for your date. It happens EVERY time. I HATE IT. I dont feel in control of the situation (at the moment) I have NO control of what my insides are feeling. I dont like that. I want to be in control of my emotions dammit. So, after those first dates there's usually NO second dates. Either because I'm NOT interested cause they said something stupid, or just because I didnt find them interesting. OR it's the other way around. When we DO go on a second date, that's usually a mistake.

There's a lot of girls who go on a zillion dates to "see what's out there" until either (A) They get sick and tired of dating and give up on dating. Period. (B) They find "The One" after the zillonth date (I dont think a zillion exists, but you know what I mean). Im very much in the A group right now. I just dont want to bother saying "Yes, lets go on a date so we can waste each other's time! Yay!" Some of you are probably like "But what if 'The One' asked you out and you said NO. And now you're going to grow old like the cat lady" (That's why I hate cats. They remind me of that stupid old grumpy lade with 14,387,150 cats) I dont have an answer to that (yet)! But I will, as soon as I think about it hard enough.

THEN we have the girls who never dated at all, because they found "The One" from the getco. I was talking to my friend the other day about this, and she said "Those girls that never dated, and never got a chance to experience dating different guys have a WHOLE empty chapter in their book. But OUR chapter is filled with stories, and stories!" She's right. I think her chapter on dating is far more . . . interesting than mine though. Now THAT girl has stories in her chapter! And NO she's not a whore. Its just the guys that she's gone out with are just UNBELIEVEABLE.

I would read her chapter over and OVER, just because I know it'll entertain me lol

There's this girl that who also blogs. Her blogs are GENIOUS. I love reading her blogs. This is a piece of one of her blogs:

"ps: a girl reader wrote to me and said that i should ‘fling till i fall in love’. which i totally agree with! that’s the thing: if i know one thing, it’s that I’m totally open to love. I’m not desperate to be in a relationship. But I’m also excited about when, where, and how my next love will come to me! I’m not bitter or jaded! Xo"

I Agree with her and her reader! I've witnessed desperate mesures that GIRLS do to impress a man. Let me tell you, its VERY very shameful! Ive witness desperate measures that girls go through to impress a boy, but NOT like the psycho girl that I work with. Ive never seen anything like THAT before. She's just unbelieveable! I think her situation has opened my eyes BIG time. I would rather eat dirt than to EVER turn out to be like her. I swear, I would hate myself if I ever turn out to be like her. Im NOT kidding! I mean, there's a certain extend that its ok to flirt and be cute with a guy. BUT once you cross that flirting line, THATS IT. You turned into the PSYCHO. Fuck that.

Im 85% that guys dont go through all this drama/stress/dating irritation like girls do. Right? Or maybe I'm wrong. Whatever.

SEX:
... I'll skip the sex part . . . for now. I'll write about this subject in another blog.

I cant write anymore, this heat in this room is irritating me.